dating right now sucks. this course will help you through it.
Picture this: You meet someone new and instead of immediately spiraling — do they like me, why haven't they texted, am I too much, not enough — you feel something different. Grounded. Clear. You know what you want. You know what you're feeling. And for the first time, you trust yourself enough to act on it.
That's not a fantasy. That's a skill set. And it's exactly what this course teaches.
The apps, the ghosting, the breadcrumbing, the situationships - it's not in your head. The system was not designed to help you find real connection. And the painful part - the more you try to figure it out, the more confused and exhausted you get.
Here's what nobodyyyy is gonna tell you: knowing yourself and knowing how to date are two completely different skills. Most self-aware people have only ever built one.
This course is the other one.
Why dating feels so broken right now + why it's not your fault
How to overcome some of the macro-level challenges we’re in
How to trust what your body already knows + use it to make better dating decisions
How to see your patterns clearly for the first time + actually start to change them
New tools for relating 1:1 with people you’re called to
The mechanics of where and how to meet
Before you build something lasting with someone else, you have to understand the relationship you have with yourself. This section helps you zoom out from the chaos of modern dating and gently turn inward — toward your patterns, your expectations, your attachment, your nervous system. You’ll explore where you’ve been gripping, where you’ve been protecting, and where you may have left yourself behind. This is about rebuilding self-trust so you can stay with yourself inside love.
When there’s another nervous system in the room, everything gets louder. This section is about learning how to relate without abandoning yourself — getting clear on what you want, practicing honest expression, and staying regulated when intimacy feels vulnerable. We explore slow dating, interdependence, and how to interrupt old spirals in real time. The work here isn’t about doing dating “right,” but about showing up with integrity and steadiness.
Romantic love cannot hold all of our belonging. In this final section, we widen the lens to community — shared values, shared joy, and the ecosystems that make healthy partnership possible. You’ll examine where you may be outsourcing worth to romance and begin strengthening connection in a more sustainable way. Because love isn’t just something you find — it’s something you practice, together.
• Core video lessons that break down how attraction, chemistry, and compatibility actually work
• Tools for spotting patterns in your dating life—and understanding why they keep repeating
• Practices to regulate your nervous system so you can stay grounded while dating
• A framework for making clearer dating decisions instead of relying on instinct alone
• A workbook full of reflection prompts and exercises to help you apply what you’re learning to your real dating experiences
• Additional reading + audio material for those who want more context or to keep exploring the ideas in this course.
You've done the therapy, read the books, and still find yourself in the same dynamics. You're tired of leading with your head and ignoring what your body is telling you. You want to date from a grounded place — not a desperate one. You're ready to stop making yourself smaller, more available, or more palatable just to keep someone around.
For nearly 20 years, Allie's work has focused on systems change. In her 30’s, Allie ran a digital marketing agency; as founder of the Equality Equation, media she produced or directed has been viewed more than 150 million times, and changed laws in 33 different states. EE’s clients included Alicia Keys, Charlize Theron, Pharrell Williams, Caitlyn Jenner, Jose Andres, and more.
In 2021, Allie transitioned from building digital --> IRL movements, and began focusing exclusively at the intersection of modern dating x inner work x community. Her flagship offering, 'the feels', was launched in Aug 2022 and since then has hosted thousands of people in NYC, LA, SF, DC, Philly, Chicago + Miami.
On a weekly basis, Allie publishes a Substack that is read by thousands; in addition to press coverage that ‘the feels’ has received in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, USA Today and many more, Allie’s media appearances include Fox32 Chicago, Fox 29 Philadelphia, the Hollywood Hamilton Show, the News Movement, and her speaking appearances include Summit at Sea, and Northwestern University Kellogg’s School of Management, plus more.
Allie holds an undergraduate degree in political science from the University of Southern California and a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology from Columbia University. To follow her on IG: @alliehoffman.
Beth is a trauma-informed somatic educator, therapist, and facilitator passionate about guiding humans toward feeling more at home in their bodies and more connected in their relationships. She holds deep reverence for emergent experience— the magic that happens when we show up fully, in real time. Her work invites participants into deeper embodiment, honest relating, and authentic discovery. With an extensive background in business strategy and consulting, she skillfully bridges structure and intuition, creating containers that honor both process and transformation. Her entrepreneurial spirit led her to cofound Resilient Recovery, an innovative program integrating somatic nervous system work with addiction recovery to address root causes and center trauma-informed practice. When she's not immersed in her work, you'll likely find her dancing, hiking, and exploring the landscapes of Northern California and beyond.
Yes, all content is available immediately after purchase. Go at your own pace.
Each week includes a pre-recorded session of about an hour. Beyond that, we recommend setting aside additional time for the journaling and reflection exercises. There's also optional reading and audio material if you want to go deeper. Most people find 1.5 - 2 hours per week feels right, but you can move at whatever pace works for you.
Lifetime access, including any future updates.
With Beth’s decade of experience as a somatic therapist and Allie’s master’s in spiritual psychology, we bring a unique perspective to the dating industry. Over the past three years, we’ve hosted thousands of people at our events and have seen firsthand how somatic practices can completely shift the way someone shows up in dating.
Only if you want it to. If you show up, stay open, and engage with the practices, you’ll walk away with a different capacity in your nervous system, a clearer lens, and an actual plan for how to relate from a more centered you, not your survival strategies.
This course is available to you the moment you purchase - which means all sales are final. We want you to feel confident before you commit, so if you have any questions, reach out to us at support@catchthefeels.co first.
WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT OUR ONLINE OFFERINGS
“I realized how quickly I assign meaning to small signals in dating and how fast I can project a whole story onto someone. This helped me slow that down and separate the person from the narrative I create.”
"This helped me learn to tap into other parts of my body that had been ignored, and built on the head/body/heart check-ins. Feeling my body system of inner knowing has already been helping me break old patterns - the practice has been super super helpful for using irl."
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