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an online, embodied course for the self-aware single

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because knowing yourself and knowing how to date are two different things

From the team behind The Feels — which has brought thousands of singles across the country into deeper connection with themselves and each other.

We know the terrain of modern dating can feel overwhelming: ghosting, breadcrumbing, the cycle of “same person, different face.” Over time it can start to erode something deeper: your trust in yourself.

Modern Dating 101 is designed to help you rebuild that.

In this course, we'll explore the forces shaping dating today and the relational skills that help you date with more clarity and self-trust. You’ll learn how to understand your patterns, regulate your nervous system in moments of intimacy, and make dating decisions that align with what you actually want.

So you can stop repeating the same dynamics—and start relating from a more grounded, self-trusting place.

* by enrolling in this course, you are confirming you are 18 years of age or older + agree to our Terms + Conditions + Consent Policy

Along the way, we're going to help you better understand

Dating in the Age of Disconnection

Why dating feels so broken right now + why it's not your fault

Creating Connection Despite the Noise

How to overcome some of the macro-level challenges we’re in

Start with the Body

How to trust what your body already knows + use it to make better dating decisions

Change the Pattern, Change the Story

How to see your patterns clearly for the first time + actually start to change them

New Ways to Relate

New tools for relating 1:1 with people you’re called to

Finding Each Other, For Real

The mechanics of where and how to meet

We'll do that via:

• Core video lessons that break down how attraction, chemistry, and compatibility actually work
• Tools for spotting patterns in your dating life—and understanding why they keep repeating
• Practices to regulate your nervous system so you can stay grounded while dating
• A framework for making clearer dating decisions instead of relying on instinct alone
• A workbook full of reflection prompts and exercises to help you apply what you’re learning to your real dating experiences
• Additional reading + audio material for those who want more context or to keep exploring the ideas in this course.

This course is for you if...

You've done the therapy, read the books, and still find yourself in the same patterns. You want to date from a grounded place — not a desperate one. You're tired of leading with your head and ignoring what your body is telling you. You're ready to stop outsourcing your sense of worth to whether someone texts back.

Meet Allie + Beth - your guides for the course

Allie Hoffman

Allie Hoffman, MArts, Psychology For nearly 20 years, Allie's work has focused on community building. Media she has produced or directed has been viewed more than 150 million times, changed laws in 33 different states, and was featured in publications like the New York Times, Guardian, Teen Vogue on a regular basis. Her past clients include Alicia Keys, Charlize Theron, Pharrell Williams, Caitlyn Jenner, and Jose Andres, and more. In 2021, Allie transitioned from building digital --> IRL movements, and began focusing exclusively at the intersection of experience design, community and inner work. Her flagship offering, 'the feels', was launched in Aug 2022 and since then has hosted thousands of people across 4 cities. Allie holds an undergraduate degree in political science from the University of Southern California and a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology from Columbia University.

Beth Foley

Beth is a trauma-informed somatic educator, therapist, and facilitator passionate about guiding humans toward feeling more at home in their bodies and more connected in their relationships. She holds deep reverence for emergent experience— the magic that happens when we show up fully, in real time. Her work invites participants into deeper embodiment, honest relating, and authentic discovery. With an extensive background in business strategy and consulting, she skillfully bridges structure and intuition, creating containers that honor both process and transformation. Her entrepreneurial spirit led her to cofound Resilient Recovery, an innovative program integrating somatic nervous system work with addiction recovery to address root causes and center trauma-informed practice. When she's not immersed in her work, you'll likely find her dancing, hiking, and exploring the landscapes of Northern California and beyond.

FAQs

Is this course self-paced?

Yes, all content is available immediately after purchase. Go at your own pace.

How long will it take each week?

Each week includes a pre-recorded session of about an hour. Beyond that, we recommend setting aside additional time for the journaling and reflection exercises. There's also optional reading and audio material if you want to go deeper. Most people find 1.5 - 2 hours per week feels right, but you can move at whatever pace works for you.

How long do I have access?

Lifetime access, including any future updates.

What makes this course different?

With Beth’s decade of experience as a somatic therapist and Allie’s master’s in spiritual psychology, we bring a unique perspective to the dating industry. Over the past three years, we’ve hosted thousands of people at our events and have seen firsthand how somatic practices can completely shift the way someone shows up in dating.

Will this actually change how I date?

Only if you want it to. If you show up, stay open, and engage with the practices, you’ll walk away with a different capacity in your nervous system, a clearer lens, and an actual plan for how to relate from a more centered you, not your survival strategies.

What if it's not for me?

This course is available to you the moment you purchase - which means all sales are final. We want you to feel confident before you commit, so if you have any questions, reach out to us at support@catchthefeels.co first.

The Breakdown:

Section 1: You with You

Before you build something lasting with someone else, you have to understand the relationship you have with yourself. This section helps you zoom out from the chaos of modern dating and gently turn inward — toward your patterns, your expectations, your attachment, your nervous system. You’ll explore where you’ve been gripping, where you’ve been protecting, and where you may have left yourself behind. This is about rebuilding self-trust so you can stay with yourself inside love.

Week 1: The Current Dating Landscape
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Week 2: A Brief History of How We've Dated + Expectations
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Week 3: The Path Forward (aka Mapping a 3-Part Journey)
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Week 4: Self Trust + Inner Knowing
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Section 2: You in Dyad

When there’s another nervous system in the room, everything gets louder. This section is about learning how to relate without abandoning yourself — getting clear on what you want, practicing honest expression, and staying regulated when intimacy feels vulnerable. We explore slow dating, interdependence, and how to interrupt old spirals in real time. The work here isn’t about doing dating “right,” but about showing up with integrity and steadiness.

Week 5: Clarity On What You Want + Better Dyads
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Week 6: Your Nervous System + Interdependence
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Section 3: You in Community

Romantic love cannot hold all of our belonging. In this final section, we widen the lens to community — shared values, shared joy, and the ecosystems that make healthy partnership possible. You’ll examine where you may be outsourcing worth to romance and begin strengthening connection in a more sustainable way. Because love isn’t just something you find — it’s something you practice, together.

Week 7: The Importance of Community
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Week 8: Shifting Your Identity + Taking Your Practice into the World
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Additional Resources

Feelings & Needs List
Somagram
The Sensations List
Emotions Wheel

You don’t need to fix yourself. You need a new framework, new tools.

If you’re ready to relate from your body — not just your brain — let’s begin.

WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT OUR ONLINE OFFERINGS

“I realized how quickly I assign meaning to small signals in dating and how fast I can project a whole story onto someone. This helped me slow that down and separate the person from the narrative I create.”

- Eric

"This helped me learn to tap into other parts of my body that had been ignored, and built on the head/body/heart check-ins. Feeling my body system of inner knowing has already been helping me break old patterns - the practice has been super super helpful for using irl."

- Sam